Posts Tagged ‘family’

Your take: First words at the homecoming?

Friday, February 19th, 2010

When you have a big moment ahead, something you’ve been fretfully awaiting, you rehearse that second over and over in your mind.

When it finally arrives, the reality is that we often react in a way we never anticipated.

Here’s a moment you all can relate to: the moment your loved one finally walks into the house after a prison term.

What’s the first thing you will say to your loved one the moment he or she returns home after prison?

[See results here. No results? Then be the first to share what you will say.]

The first thing people will say when his or her loved one returns home:

No results? Then be the first to share what you will say!

Shifting community to Facebook

Saturday, February 13th, 2010

We’re moving to more engaging neighborhood!

After two years of enduring an incessant stream of spam at our Ning community site, we are moving to Facebook where people can actually share their thoughts, feelings and experiences without someone trying to sell them Viagra.

Within 24 hours of publicizing the Facebook group page, people have began to ask questions, post comments and really to form a sense of community.

We hope you’ll join us there to share your own experiences or expertise with the growing community.

Thanks!

Sandeep

Healthcare: Ill and dying in prison

Sunday, October 18th, 2009
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Family Life Behind Bars has been working very slowly on a project that looks at the healthcare that is provided to inmates and the role families play in caring for someone in prison. The site had a great personal audio piece about one daughter’s attempts to care for her sick father in prison. We’ll keep plugging away at this angle.

In the meantime, the New York Times has an interesting piece about how more prisons are starting hospice programs as the prison population ages with many of them using inmate volunteers to ease the pain of dying in prison. Without family to help deal with the illness, the last days or months of life can be difficult. Fellow inmates can help deal that remaining time.

One prison healthcare official says that “inmate volunteers bond with the patients in a way that staff members cannot, taking on “the touchy-feely thing” that may be inappropriate between inmates and prison workers.”

SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS: How do you try to care for a family member who is in prison and ill?

[Use the comments feature below or call (646) 867-1891 to leave an audio message.]

Web radio: Financial advice for families and the formerly incarcerated

Wednesday, May 27th, 2009

On Monday, June 1 at 9 p.m., Makeba and I will be hosting a very special show.  We will be speaking to Mark S. La Spisa, financial advisor, President and co-founder of Vermillion Financial Advisors Inc. (VFA).  We’ll be asking La Spisa to share his financial expertise and answer the questions that matter to you most, including:

  • * Financial advice for families with at least one incarcerated family member
  • * Money saving tips for families with at least one incarcerated family member
  • * Financial planning for families with an incarcerated family member
  • * Financial tips for recently released individuals
  • * Money saving tips for recently released individuals

Though La Spisa normally advises clients with wealth in excess of $1 million, he has personal experience with advising his own family.  After La Spisa’s cousin was locked up and sentenced to 10 years in prison for cocaine possession, his mother (La Spisa’s aunt) was left with no income.  Forced to deal with the reality of starting over financial, La Spisa gave her financial advice and assisted her with finding public assistance and community programs aimed at assiting low-income families.

We anticipate this show being highly informative so we strongly encourage you listen live online at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/familylifebehindbars or by calling (347) 326-9981.

If you have a question about finances or would like financial advice, simply dial (347) 326-9981, press 1 on your phone, and wait to be patched in.  Keep in mind that the number is a New York number so your phone company may charge long distance fees.

If you already have a financial related question that you would like answered, please leave it in the comments section below and we’ll be sure to address it during the show.  If you have comments, suggestions, or topics for future shows, please leave those in the comments section below too.

Research: Prison punishes more people than just the inmates

Friday, April 24th, 2009

More people live behind bars in the United States than in any other country, but the American prison system punishes more than just its inmates—it also takes a toll on the health of friends and loved ones left behind.

In the first known study of its kind, University of Michigan researchers found that people with a family member or friend in prison or jail suffer worse physical and mental health and more stress and depressive symptoms than those without a loved one behind bars. Moreover, these symptoms worsen the closer the relationship to the person incarcerated.

The study results could help explain health disparities between minorities and whites, says Daniel Kruger, research professor at the U-M School of Public Health and lead researcher on the study.

African Americans are more likely to know someone in prison and to feel closer to the person incarcerated than whites do, Kruger says.

“It’s like a double whammy,” he said.

Forty-nine percent of African Americans in the study report having a friend or relative in prison during the past five years, compared to just 20 percent of whites.

According to the study, those who knew someone in prison had 40 percent more days where poor physical health interfered with their usual activities, including work, and 54 percent more days where poor mental or emotional health interfered with these activities.

Others have examined the health effects of incarceration on inmates and a few studies have investigated the health of children whose mothers are in prison, but those studies focused on people already in the system, says Kruger.

“We actually took a representative sample of people in the community and asked them whether they had a friend or relative incarcerated in the last five years,” Kruger said. “We also included a powerful array of known health predictors as control variables.”

For instance, Kruger and colleagues considered whether a person smoked tobacco, drank alcohol heavily, was overweight or obese, or had adequate nutrition and physical exercise.

The study consisted of 1,288 adults from Flint, Mich., an urban area with high unemployment and crime rates, and surrounding areas of Genesee County. In the study, 67 percent of respondents were white and 26 percent were African American.

“Our study demonstrates that incarceration is not only enormously expensive economically, it also has public health costs and these should be taken into consideration,” Kruger said. “In the last 30 years or so, we have seen a more and more punitive system, one where judges no longer have discretion for sentencing.”

Moving toward a rehabilitation model may benefit both the offending individuals and society, he says.

“The vast majority of people incarcerated are nonviolent drug offenders,” Kruger said. “We should shift oversight of substance use and abuse to the health care sector.”

One out of every 100 adults in the United States is incarcerated and more than three times as many African Americans and Latinos live in jails or prisons than college dorms, Kruger says. This particular study looked only at African Americans, not Latinos, because there is not a large population of Latinos in Flint and Genesee County.

The paper, “The Association of Incarceration with Community Health and Racial Health Disparities,” is in the April issue of Progress in Community Health Partnerships.

New Web Radio Show to Focus on Interests of Families of Incarcerated

Thursday, March 12th, 2009

I’ll be co-hosting a monthly radio program starting next week that will feature guests who will address many of the questions and concerns people have when a loved one is in prison.

Makeba Lavan, a columnist for Lives in Focus, Family Life Behind Bars, will also be a host.

During each show we’ll cover topics like how do you deal with all the bills piling up when it’s just you earning for the whole family? how do you overcome the social stigma? The idea is to help those left behind when a family member or significant other is in prison.

The first show will be on Monday, March 16 at 6:30 pm EST.  The show will feature the Founder and President of Children of Promise, NYC, Sharon B. Content.

CPNYC is a Brooklyn based organization committed to embracing and empowering children of incarcerated parents to break the cycle of intergenerational involvement in the criminal system.  The organization offers counseling, mentoring, academic tutoring, recreation and more.  Content will talk about the program and how this Bed-Stuy born organization has worked to change young lives.

People can listen live to the show on their phones or over the Internet. To listen to the show on your phone, dial (347) 326-9981. When you have a question, just press 1 on your phone. Keep in mind that the phone number is a New York number and your phone company will charge you for long distance calling.

If you are not in the area and don’t want to call long distance, you can listen to the show at: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/familylifebehindbars.

We hope you join us for the inaugural radio program. We’d also love your suggestions for guests and topics for future programs. Please share those in the comments section below.

Arts Competition Audio: Bianca on Family & Prison

Monday, January 12th, 2009

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UPDATE: Psychologist to answer your questions on coping with Holiday Season separation

Monday, November 3rd, 2008

[This interviewed was rescheduled for Monday, Nov. 10. You may submit your questions through Nov. 9.]

The holiday season is meant to be a time for joy and celebration. But for many, it is difficult period when their separation from an incarcerated family member is magnified because of the relentless message that this is a time for families to be together.

Often people do not know where to turn to learn how to cope with this period. What do you tell your children when they are sad that their parent is not there? Do you engage them in this conversation or not? Who can you turn to? How do you express what you are feeling to your spouse or children? What is the best way for children to handle this period?

To answer some of those questions, I have arranged an interview with Dr. Harland Kessaris, a psychologist who specializes in helping families adjust to life when a member is in prison.

You have an opportunity to ask Dr. Kessaris your own questions to him. I’d like to hear from you – what questions do you want to ask Dr. Kessaris?

Submit them before Nov. 6 Nov. 9 and I’ll include them in the interview on Friday, Nov. 7 Monday, Nov. 10. You’ll be able to see the answers when we post the article on Monday Wednesday, Nov. 12.

You have three options:

  1. Post a question in the comments section below,
  2. Send an email to questions@livesinfocus.org,
  3. Call (646) 867-1891 to leave a message.

Update: Arts competition to offer prize money for works that depict impact of incarceration on family

Monday, November 3rd, 2008
Anna Bushan

Solitude (click image to enlarge)

REMINDER: DEADLINE TO ENTER IS DEC. 1, 2008

People who have an incarcerated family member naturally cycle through a range of difficult emotions as the years slowly pass. Some express their sadness, anxiety and fear or hope for the future through art, music or poetry.

To honor that great artwork, Family Life behind Bars is launching its inaugural Annual Arts Celebration & Competition.You are invited to enter the artwork you have produced that reflects the emotions you are feeling during your loved one’s incarceration. (more…)

Addiction treatment programs v. jail time

Monday, October 13th, 2008

The Contra Costa Times, a local newspaper outside San Francisco, has an interested piece that looks at the strengths and minuses of addiction treatment programs versus prison or jail terms. The piece profiles 32-year-old John Delino who went in and out of jail and treatment programs until he pulled himself together. But that program is running out of funding and not everyone is sold on its merits. (more…)