Makeba’s Column: Who is your parent?
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Makeba describes how children form impressions of the incarcerated parent when he or she is missing from the child’s daily life.
In her previous column, Makeba discussed how she would raise children but why she is not quite ready for that responsibility herself. In her first column, she introduced her mother as the two prepared to spend their first mother’s day together.
SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS: What are some impressions you have formed about your incarcerated parent? And when you visit, how true is that impression compared to the real person?
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If you are a child of someone who is incarcerated and you have a question for Makeba, you have three options:
1) Post a question in the comments section below,
2) Send an email to questions@livesinfocus.org,
3) Call (646) 867-1891 to leave a message.
Makeba also welcomes questions from others who might simply be interested in knowing more about how the life of children is affected when a parent is incarcerated.




Hello. I was really impressed with this young lady. I stumbled upon this site today as I was researching film schools in Arizona.
I have a boyfriend in an AZ prison who’s serving a life sentence and I can certainly relate to a lot of the stories here. I also have a pen pal in Tucson I write to regularly who has family where I live now.
Society looks at family members or friends of loved ones in prison as being guilty by association. For myself, I’m an educated, hard-working Southern woman who’s never even had a speeding ticket, so that really makes me angry.
I am moving to Arizona later this year(live in IN now) and want to start a non-profit and raise money to fight those contracts the prisons have with telephone providers. Right now I’m paying $17.30 for a 15 minute call!
The fact that the prisons are profiting off of this makes me physically ill.
I will post a link to this site on my web site once I have everything set up. Thank you for giving families a voice.
Christie